Kelli,
30 years ago my first wife told me to give up my crossdressing or leave the marriage. She wanted a man and not a woman as a husband. I left the marriage. 5 years later after I was married to the most accepting and supportive wife in the world (she is the author of My Husband Wears My Clothes), my ex told me that she had made the biggest mistake in her life. Her knight in shining arms may have worn a dress sometimes around the house but he still was the best man she had ever known. Too late. 2 weeks larer we suspect she took her own life.
Over the past 28 years in counseling with hundreds of couples we have seen many instances of an unaccepting wife who in time became totally supportive and accepting. Whats the secret? Usually if a couple is able to communicate openly and with honesty in all areas and do not have other major problems in the relationship other than the crossdressing, in time some wives are able to come to acceptance. Yes, most are afraid of losing their man but can come to the point where they are able to see beyond the clothing and know that s(he) is her man.
Hang in there and come visit us in Houston.
Hugs,
Melanie
