How to be the CD that women are attracted to.

[Andrea_1948]

I think you've completely missed Bev's point. You shouldn't be looking externally for validation. That's the "self" part of "self confidence."

Actually, I did understand her point, I was just being a little cocky. I get that way sometimes, it's a trait, or perhaps a hormone I inherited from somewhere.

Why is timidity something to strive for? I daresay it isn't.

I agree.

I find it a pathetic quality in women, and it's downright repulsive in men. The kind of woman I like is like my great-granny, riding across the plains in a covered wagon, shooting Indians -- the proverbial one to "ride the river with." Gentle and classy, but solid and dangerous.

Totally agree.

I guess I just missed the part of "transvestite" that says I have to change my voice, squat to pee, rename myself, act fey, and simper. All the Jungian psychology may have some truth to it, but to the rest of humanity, it just sounds like making excuses for engaging in what, for most of us, is simply a pleasurable activity.

I couldn't agree with you more!!! Given that the Jungian theory [going beyond Freud's pleasure-pain principle (if it feels good, do it)] encompasses the entire self, physical as well as emotional, they play on each other to describe the whole of ones self and attitude toward things. So, by putting on pretty and soft clothing my physical self is stroking my emotional self and damn it feels good!
Given that, why is it that sometimes I end up feeling like I'm one of Pavlov's dogs? I guess because my sense of community (and employment) tells me that I have to conform. At least when I'm in view of the public.

By the way MissConstrued I like you.