I've been in divorce court, (it took 8 years to settle everything), and in many other courts, as plaintiff AND defendant.
The best defense in court, is a GOOD OFFENSE! I can't believe your BF skipped the court hearing! The combination of that, plus having a poor, (and possibly unprepared), attorney, may have cooked his goose before the presiding judge!
Did he tell his attorney that the ex would probably bring up his CDing? If so, did they prepare an effective defense when she did? I can think of LOTS of things that mite refute her testimony, and discredit her as well!
Remember, THE LAW has NOTHING to do with FAIRNESS! It's who's story is BETTER! From what I've seen, fabrications in court r the RULE, NOT the exception!
During my divorce, if my ex had brought up my CDing, she knew, in advance, the dirt I would dump on her! She didn't, I didn't! Even tho my attorney wanted to!
I don't think u need a "gender sensitive" attorney. U need a REALLY GOOD, EXPERIENCED attorney! He/she will come up with points that could convince a judge to see your side of things!
Unfortunately, the best legal minds COST! How much r your BF's kids worth? U 2 must decide! And FAST!
