Wow, so many different reactions to the original poster.
Jenna better hide all of the sharp objects and hide from all the "Nancy Graces" who answered this posting.
I told my ex-wife and my current wife about my dressing way before we got married. My first marriage did not hold together and the dressing was a factor and luckily my second marriage is going on 15 years now and my wife is more than super cool with it.
The bottom line is this, You are a CD that feels repressed and you also love your wife and want to hold your marriage and family life together.
You had a moment of freedom that let all of your feminine feelings rush out and the so-called pink fog enveloped you.
You said you finally feel like a woman. Maybe not biologically accurate but I can definitely understand the incredible feeling that being "Free and feminine" can give you.
Yes lying to her does suck, but I can understand it. Talk about being pulled apart in two different directions. Making yourself feel and look as you need to and yet feeling you can't trust your wife and possibly lose the future of your marriage.
One thing you will have to do is somehow join your feelings with letting your wife know while trying to keep your life from shredding apart.
All I can suggest is to find a very good family therapist who has worked with gender issues. Go interview a few, most offer a first short free consult. When you find a therapist that you feel you can trust and communicate with, have a few sessions and then bring your wife in with you.
Things still may not work out but having that trained third person helping the both of you would really be a start in the right direction.
I wish both of you luck and peace.
