Originally Posted by
Toni_Lynn
I have thought long and hard about how to reply to this thread, so that my reply will not be seen as condemning or criticising anyone. I will no doubt have failed, but I'll say what I have to say.
To me, bondage and its array of associated practices (discipline/ domme/ sub) are contradictory to what I view sexual intimacy to be. I see sexual intimacy to be the tenderness of giving and being free to give oneself over to providing pleasure to one's partner. I feel that because B&D in-animates a person, it objectifies them such that they can only be "used" by the non-bound person, and in a sense become passive participants.
Love and sexual intimacy is to be freeing, and in that act I am acting as one with my partner (my wife!) to bring forth a totality of love and joy such that we both, in a sense, spiritually, become unified at the time of climax. At that time I want my body to be free to touch and kiss and caress my wife and heighten her sensations. I see bondage as being more of a singularity in that regard.
Again -- I am not wishing to condemn or criticise anyone if their views are different from mine. The above is simply the way that I feel on the subject.
Huggles
Toni-Lynn
