I don't get this 'baby-steps' approach

[Sarah_GG]

Well, what if the crossdresser uses baby steps? I mean, that's what happened to me. First was hose, then much later panties and bras, then a longer period later came dresses, and now finally wig and make-up. Over 20 years or so.

And I still can't tell where this might be going. Right now I'm certain I won't get any operations nor try to increase my breast size. This too may change in a few years.

I do know I have graduated out of the pure **** look I was so fond of before. Blending is my goal now.

Well that's fine too! As long as you're honest about where you're at at this moment in time and can communicate it through open dialogue! If you honestly can't say where you are or where you'll end up on the spectrum, then why not just say that?

Of course things change as we learn and grow but I'm talking about being honest about where you're at now. It's no good pretending you only want to wear stockings and suspenders if really you'd like to go the full nine yards. If dialogue is kept open then you can grow in your understanding together.

A while ago I used to worry... what if my SO wants to transition. Well, from everything I've ever read, who can ever really say. At the moment my SO has no plans whatsoever to transition. I stopped worrying about it and have decided I'll cross that bridge when and if I come to it.

I'm not saying it's perfect :D but our relationship is organic and will adapt (or not) to different challenges along the way.

But by talking about things and allowing her to come to grips with things at her pace, we have remained together for over 33 years of marriage.
It just comes down to committment to your relationship and how hard you are willing to fight to keep it going. If you don't start every day new and fresh and let your loved one KNOW that you love them and accept them for who they are, how can you ever expect them to reciprocate and do the same for you?
Enough soap boxing....
Lisa Elizabeth

Exactly!