Why can't I ???

[sandra-leigh]

So what your saying is you have neither the mind of a male or a female, and more like somewhere in between then, maybe???....

Yeah, with the proviso that I might be one of the people for whom even "in between" is not right either. There are some people who can reasonably be understood as being positioned somewhere on a line between "male" and "female", but it isn't clear yet that I am one of them. Describing me is probably going to require multiple dimensions in a non-Riemann geometry

All I know now from your latest post is, besides making my head spin, is that you have way more issues that I ever had...and I that I feel very sorry for you in some strange way, and wish I could help you in some way too, but I know I cant, because what's wrong is far beyond my knowledge..

Take care..

Thank you for your note of concern. I do not disagree with anything you wrote there. You are correct, I have multiple difficult issues in my life. I'm working on them from multiple angles, and attempting to fix what I can and attempting to adapt to what is beyond my control.


So... can we now agree that if your experiences and thoughts lead you to disagree with something I say, that it would be better to say that you disagree rather than to say that what I wrote should not be paid attention to?

If the wife is fine with it, who cares what she is? But THIS particular wife is turned off by it. But according to you, she, not the CDer, has to adjust and change.

I suggest, Acadeca, that you review what I actually wrote and what I did not write.

You wrote that "She needs a masculine husband as much as you need to dress", and you did so without apparent evidence as to the extent of the original poster's need to dress. My response was to point out that for some of us (and by extension, possibly the original poster), the need to dress is very high indeed. Call it a "biological defect" or a "brain disorder" if you need to in order to understand the situation: some of us literally get sick (in a measurable medical sense for some of us!) if we do not cross-dress.

Can you cite anything in the posting that originated this thread, or in anything posted previously by the original poster, that allows you to make an absolute statement that the original poster's wife needs a "masculine husband" to the point of being incapacitated if her husband is not sufficiently "masculine" ? If not, then you are going on supposition or stereotypes or myth.

But according to you, she, not the CDer, has to adjust and change.

I am not aware of having made any comment in this thread about what the original poster's wife should or should not do.

You made an absolute statement that presumed detailed knowledge of both the wife and the husband's internal mental states and biological conditions, and offered no supporting evidence for that absolute statement. I addressed the incorrectness of making that absolute statement without clear definition of terms. That doesn't mean that I agree with the husband; nor does it mean that I disagree with the wife: it means I disagree with the making of unclear absolute statements, especially ones not backed by evidence.