Originally Posted by
Lorileah
Maybe I missed it, or maybe I just don't get this whole thing. The solution, plain and simple is...TELL HER. She's 8, she isn't an infant she isn't an arrogant teenager. It is the perfect time to bring this out in the open and quit making it a farce and reinforcing that it is wrong. Bite the bullet, come clean, discuss this with her before someone else tells her what a perversion it is and she thinks back to how daddy was all embarrassed and scared over it.
You teach your children to respect others, to not judge based in appearances but on actions. You teach them to accept what a person (evidently other than your family) is without deriding them or jumping to irrational conclusions. You teach your children everything they need to grow up to be responsible caring and open minded adults, then you sneak around and infer that what you are doing is wrong and a reason to keep a secret. No wonder children are confused.
You already KNOW she knows. It doesn't effect her as a child with her friends. I am sure at 8 she doesn't go around the school telling everyone her dad wears dresses. It isn't important to anyone but her and maybe her BEST friends.
Now I will get hammered by the 800 closeted parents here who say you can't tell your kids. You can. I understand wanting to protect them but what are you protecting them from? Is this such a sexual secret? If it is then dressing in the middle of the afternoon was a poor idea...just like not locking your door when you have a little afternoon delight. But if it is like so many say here "part of who you are" then you need to come out.
