Sorry to hear that you're going through a rough spot, Karren.
My typically understanding spouse has also lately developed this "you've already crossed over, the guy is dead" thingy and it seems to be simmering somewhere underneath. And sometimes it seems that the more "guy" I try to be, the more firmly she latches on to her notion.
Will keep sending good thoughts your way.
You know that driving off is a totally guy thing, right?