i'd like to give my take on this, and i apologize in advance for the length of it. personally it appears to me that the outrage present (and certainly in my case this is true) is not because he said his wife is overweight (regardless of his intentions and/or actual verbiage) but because he seems to be saying that he was going out dressed because he looks better as a woman than she does, and that her body looks terrible. concern for her health is one thing, but let's face it, "...her body looks terrible" can not be construed in any way other than hurtful. furthermore, it is incredibly juvenile and inflammatory for a CD to attempt to blame their SO for what they have in most cases already been doing for a large portion of their life anyway.

and i do hear sentiments like this rather often from CDs, both in and out of relationships: i don't have, can't find, am not with, et cetera, a girl who looks the way i want one to look, so i make myself that girl, as much as i can. i KNOW that this is not why all of us are who we are and do what we do, but it is an underlying motivation for some. but to come right out and say something like that, especially in such a negative way, is counterproductive at best.

i'm not even going to mention the comment about "...when she caught me i was wearing her clothes!" another reason many SOs do not like our dressing is because so many of us use their things to do it. talk about an invasion of privacy! how would you expect a stereotypical guy to react if his wife took his power tools (without his permission) and used them to do her things, many of which said tools are simply NOT designed for? you think he will be cool with her using his 180 dollar dewalt cordless power drill to mix cake batter?!? oh, wait, i said i wasn't going to mention it, didn't i? oops

finally, even if the entire story is nothing more than a steaming bile of bovine excrement, the point remains that if someone is reading this forum hoping to gain an understanding of the CD/TG/TS world, the kind of negativity in the op and in any post bashing our SOs or GGs in general will. not. help. our cause.