Why does it seem that we have to be so honest in our relationships when nobody else has too?

Have you told your SO/girlfriend/whatever every single thing that goes on in your life? Think about it for a couple of seconds.

How many times have you been out with the guys and your buddies see this hot looking girl and make comments about having sex with her and doing this or that? How many of us have thought the same thing? Did any of you run home and tell the SO that you saw this awesome looking woman and thought of banging her right there on the spot? (or more like for this group, she had an awesome body I wish I had so I could get away with that outfit she had on...).

Look, he found something that worked for his wife, after all he knows her better than any of us do. I would be surprised if she reacted the sameway after the 18 months if he came clean right away. Now that she knows the girl side of him, he may be able to say that he has been doing this all along and had he not gotten her used to the she part of him, she may have bolted again. Who knows, she may even know or suspect that he did, but doesn't care because the end result is they have a happy understanding marriage.

Now I know what is next, what if my wife kept secrets from me. Fine with me as I trust my wife. If she feels it is important enough to share with me great, but if she feels she needs to protect/hide something from me, I am not going to pry. She has her reasons.

I guess my main point is, it is impossible to be 100% totally honest with anyone, even your spouse. I don't know how many times my wife tells me I look sexy in my shorts when all I see is the fat belly hanging over my belt and the extra chin under my mouth. When I bet she is really thinking, you could use to lose a couple (100) pounds or so.

And yes my wife knows about Alicia. She has from the start. At first she wasn't too comfortable with it, but she is getting better with it. She has bought stuff for me like skirts/tops/pantyhose/etc.