I'm a CD'er and my GF accepts it. The deal is with me is I laid it all out. I had to explain to her that I have been doing this since age 7. It has become more about my self-expression than sexual. I am so infatuated with the feminine mystique that i like to emulate it in all it's forms. There's nothing gay about this. I would have to think about being with guys in order to be gay....it hasn't happened. I thought about transition about a million times but I always come back to the same place, which is I love my guy side and don't want to give it up. I'm just a regular dude who likes women, but I have an additional side.
My girlfriend of 2 months knows that i go out en femme to places and realizes that I need to in order to keep myself together, though I have not been out in public more than a month ago. I guess I'm lucky that she's that udnerstanding, but there's still a lot of road for me to cover, therefore it's silly for me to comment further.
When I retire, I plan on being an artist and making Nathalie a more integral part of my life but I have no desire to live full time.
My advice for all is to open up, and tell your life story, and be honest and forthcoming form the get go. This will avoid pain and tragic scenarios down the road. I think the problem is many CD'ers admit to themselves that they are CD'ers halfway through the marriage, and then have problems coming out.
