Well, I'm still not convinced...Originally Posted by Lorileah
It is a common misconception that TG's threaten femininity especially with their SOs. I don't know which pioneer of psychiatry thought of this but it really has not been something I have ever really seen or been told in real life. I have never heard of a woman telling her TG spouse "Oh you are so much more girly than I am...I can't take it." We aren't a threat to femininity, the biggest issue is how we present that to the SO.
If we don't pose a "threat" to our SO's by trying to get in touch with our own inherent femininity, then riddle me this, Batman:
- Why did my wife go ballistic when she got wind of the fact that I had once tried on one of her old bras which she had included in a bunch of clothes destined for Goodwill? After all, as an extension of this POV, they are just discarded garments with no life or personality of their own even if society generally deems them to be gender-specific, so then what's the big deal, right? Oh, I dunno - maybe - just maybe - being freaked out by the thought of her husband in her lingerie and seeing that as an affront to the sense of intimacy she otherwise feels for him?
- Having been forbidden for some years now by my wife to buy her any article of clothing for Christmas, birthdays etc. because of the irrational fear that I might secretly be buying the identical article for myself in my size, and how weird/creepy would that be?
- Being told in no uncertain terms that because she is not a lesbian, the thought of seeing me in women's clothing would be utterly repulsive to her because she likes and is sexually attracted to real, (preferably big and hairy) masculine MEN, and not androgynous-appearing ones or effeminate "girly men". So yeah, that's all she wants to see when it comes to me, and especially in the bedroom.
Do I think those are signs that my wife sees her own femininity threatened by the mere existence of "Leslie" when she reacts so strongly to these matters? Well, as they say, if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, and looks like a duck, odds are...
