Georgi, first, I am SO very sorry for what you are going through. I can only imagine the hurt that both of you are feeling right now, and I truly hope you're able to find a way through this.
Second, please, please consider asking your wife to see a counselor with you. You're both going through something very intense, and this is going to impact you emotionally for a long time to come. Unless you're able to communicate extremely well on this topic by yourself, you need someone who can help lead the conversations that need to happen.
From what I can gather from your comments, it sounds like both of you are trying to enter some sort of denial. You, that you're not a crossdresser anymore, and for your wife, that you never shared this information with her in the first place. Pushing this under the rug will not help either of you, or your marriage. You need to work through the emotions that you're both feeling with someone equipped to help you with the tools you'll need, preferably someone experienced with gender issues. Otherwise, I would fear that you'll both end up feeling a lot of resentment. You, that "she made" you give up crossdressing (if only b/c of her response), and her that you had not shared this with her sooner.
Of course only you can know what is right for you and your wife, but I hope you'll consider this among your options.
Best of luck,
Cat
