Giorgi,
I am so glad to hear that you feel things are getting better -even just a little better.
It seems to be a fine line when "working through" the coming out process between talking/discussing the CD issue and being perceived as "obsessing" about it. So, I think you might be taking the right approach (although you're the only one who can decide that for sure) in presenting your case with some valid options and then backing off, continuing a sense of normalcy in day to day life, and giving your wife some "room" to think about the options. As you said, the ball is in her court.
Out of curiosity, does the counselor have any experience with CD/TS issues in a marriage? It might be good to make sure that whoever you use has at least some familiarity with crossdressing behavior.
Best of luck.
