If you do not know how to give REAL love to yourself, then learn how by "letting in" and "receiving" the love and caring all of us and others around you are trying to give you. It doesn't matter what the advice is, it's the fact that we are trying to show caring. Let that sink in and know that you are NOT alone.
Untill you choose to do that, you cannot learn to love yourself.
A good book resource is "Celebrate Yourself" by Dorothy Corkille Briggs.
"I find my reflection in all those around, where inner connection so longed for is found" by Aliciaweb
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