Number 1. Don't be drinking to manage other desires, particularly if you've consumed enough to impair your judgement. Believe me - I know this from painful personal experience.
Number 2. There's nothing to reconcile between the desire to dress and parenthood. Yes, you may not be quite as free to dress as you are now, once the little one is around, but this child, and your marriage SHOULD and MUST always be your top priority in life.
Number 3. I don't know about the circumstances when you dressed with your wife. Maybe over time you can come to some other level of compromise. This can change if you keep the conversation going and remain empathetic to her needs and feelings.
