This is my take on the situation, I have three ages 10,6,4 the oldest is my daughter and even when I dress she calls me daddy. My sons same. They don't care as long as Im here for them. My family and friends are there no matter how i present. Every one is different in how they accept things, its all in the upbringing. When we are born we know nothing except the main things eat, deficate, sleep and cry. We are taught by our family's what is right and wrong. So it is up to US as parents to teach our kids the right way to live. As for your situation hiding is never good at all. Nor is going behind her back doing something she asked you not to while she is home. Also drinking never solves a problem it just masks the issue you are trying to deal with. Talk to her and tell her how you feel and go from there.
