Hi all, I wanted to offer up an update to my "story" now that it has been about 4 weeks since I told her. As a brief history, I had been hiding my cross dressing for all of our relationship together, more than 25 years total and 20+ of those married. While I nearly had a heart attack upon telling her, it went fantastically and she has been fantastic every day since. Her only concern was that I might want to transition to a woman and when I assured her that I was a cross dresser only, she was completely happy. Today, she even tried on a few of my dresses and said she she'd like to borrow one in particular. She also told me it was fine if I wanted to wear them around the house while she was home! She is even helping me choose outfits while shopping on line. So things are great beyond my wildest dreams but the reason I am relating this now is because of a conversation we had about why she accepts me and advice I had given to all here. I told her that some wives are not at all accepting and even worse. She really couldn't believe it because as she said," I love you so it just doesn't matter. The only thing I can think is that if someone's relationship is already difficult, this could offer a "reason" to get out."
So my message is this: truth is always better. After coming out to my wife, every day is great. The caveat is if you think your relationship is strained, you need to fix that before you tell. I do not think cross dressing is the cause of relationship issues. I think relationship issues cause intolerance of our cross dressing. Dig deep, address your relationship. When that is on solid footing, come clean. You'll be happy. Best wishes to all.
