Milestone...first real date with a guy...

[RebeccaLynne]

Hun I'm a post-op. I "appear to be" a woman and I have a vagina. It's really no one's business until intimacy comes up, and some believe not even then. I'm a woman and a defect was fixed.

Partially. You've been surgically transformed into what "appears to be a woman". Yet you possess neither ovaries nor a uterus, making you unable to bear children. So do you wait to tell him until he expresses the desire to raise a family?

Wow! That is amazingly transphobic! So, if a trans woman does not divulge her secret right away she is seen as deceiving, but, on the other hand, if she announces it right away she will be seen as pretending to be a woman. It is a no win situation either way. What is the point of telling? So that the guy can back out from a perceived gay relationship? Dating and relationships are tricky no matter how interesting the past may be for either person. Why would a connection not be real? what if the guy went to prison and has not told Julie yet? Will he have deceived her?

I'm certainly not transphobic. I'm a realist. The point of telling is honesty. If he'd been to prison, it wouldn't preclude him from fathering children. So your point is irrelevant.

As a trans woman who lives stealth and enjoys all the cis-privileges of a regular woman, I can assure you that dating men is quite complex. Telling or not, and at what time is not cut and dried. Some never do.

I'm sure it is. So what do you tell him when he tells you he wants children?

She IS what she appears to be!

Nope.

Deception? No, not at all because Zenith is a female!.

In her outward appearance, and in her own mind; but not physically. She cannot bear children.

If the relationship builds to a point where it's time to divulge those secrets meant to only be known by a select few then it is her decision when and how to tell him.

The sooner, the better. That's my point.

What a slimey comment. She has every right to be who she is now. She is what she is - woman. She may want to tell him her past in the future, but her present status is purely woman.

I disagree. Read my above responses as to my point of view. If you have a qualifying argument to the contrary, by all means elaborate on your position.

Otherwise, shut up.