Ten months of knowing about this is a short time. How do you know that it is just the concept of CDing that is bothering your wife? Does your wife have other concerns, such as you going out dancing without her? Do you dance with other GGs, or other men? Or having a rich social life where she is not involved? Does your wife know all the other people you spend so much time with? Does your wife feel neglected in any way?
Also, I'm sorry but I don't quite understand if you want to live in two separate worlds, or if you want to be single again? Or is it your wish to also be Jen at home, except your wife wants no part of this right now. Is you wife OK with the two separate worlds, or is she asking you to stop being Jen entirely, even when your wife is at work?
