Quote Originally Posted by ReineD View Post
I don't think you understand what I'm getting at. You can call in what you want: fetish, paraphilia, addiction, compulsion, whatever.

It is when a certain behavior takes over to the point of excess and it damages relationships, it negatively impact jobs, it causes someone's world to shrink considerably. The person affected can no longer enjoy doing anything else and sadly this person can stay in denial over this for a long time, refusing to acknowledge that the "condition" (use any word you want) even exists.
Then we agree. My point is merely that the so-called fetish is irrelevant. Let's say this person's obsession was collecting butterflies. He spends every waking moment working on his butterfly collection and neglecting his work, his family and even his own health. Let's say further that because he considers butterflies to be delicate and feminine, he likes to wear women's clothing when he locks himself in the basement all night with his collection. Would we say that his problem is Transvestic Lepidoptery? I hope not. His problem is self control. He may or may not need to give up butterflies and crossdressing in order to regain control but they are not the root problem, only symptoms.

Quote Originally Posted by ReineD View Post
Some people become voluntary recluses to accommodate their condition, even if they don't masturbate all day (just a few hours every day). So my question is, if it involves wearing women's clothes, does this make the crossdressing OK?
Sure, because crossdressing isn't the problem.