Quote Originally Posted by Stephanie47 View Post


I really get tired of reading on this site, "What did you expect when you lived a life of deceit?" Marla stated it correctly. Cross-dressing is one aspect of a person's life. An entirely good marriage is not built on one building block.
Yes crossdressing is one aspect but the lies that go with it isn't. Trust is another building block but when I wife is told years down the line that trust is shattered.

Quote Originally Posted by Stephanie47 View Post
How many responders on this site have said their wife or SO was told of his cross-dressing are WERE fine with it, only to later resent it, toss it in his face? Why aren't you coming down hard on those women, who led their cross-dressing husbands or boyfriends to believe they were 'cool' with it?
Yes this does happen and most times it happens because the cder pushes things to much, and basically it becomes all about the cder.

I am one of those SOs who after years of everything being ok, I gradually hated the cding, why, because Nigella came out of the forces and went a bit wild, dressing more often, buying things that she didn't need and clothing that she would never wear, it became all about her. Fortunately for us we worked things out.

Just don't try and load all the blame onto the SO.