Lying

[Eryn]

How many times it is not just the clothes or makeup...you really don't have a bloody clue!!!

Sandra, for you it is not. For others it may be. It is possible for both levels of involvement to exist at the same time in different individuals. Let's keep the discussion civil, please.

...There are levels and degrees to consider. Some things are better left as a secret. Although, being "caught" might lead to a bigger mess than being open about it.

I'd say that the line is pretty clear here. If one's activities are extensive enough to present a danger of being caught, then it is time to figure out a way to talk about it.

Also, there's a small but significant difference between "lying" and "lying by omission". Usually the latter is to spare another's feelings or one's own embarrassment.

Yes, this applied to my own situation as well. Everyone routinely omits mentioning a number of things that might hurt our spouses and if the urge to CD exists only at very low levels that do not affect the spouse it is no different than any other issue.