Quote Originally Posted by Sandra View Post
Initially it is trust, deceit, it is not just the finding out but what comes later, the cder thinking that just because the SO knows then they can spend what they want, dress when ever they want etc without talking to their SO's about it, and if any boundaries have been agreed, pushing these to the limit and going over board with them.
Ah, okay! That's completely different from where I thought you were going. Thanks for replying!

The part about spending what they want, doing what they want, and pushing agreed-on boundaries could be said about pretty much any husband and his hobby, though, right? Golfing, hunting, fishing, shooting... I've done the hunting and the fishing. Currently, I play D&D, and we've had plenty of issues over that one. Neither one compares to my dad's gun collection though. The man is obsessed.