What being a TS is NOT

[Bree-asaurus]

To one of your points Bree we are different in an important way...
i never ever ever felt "connected" with someone with my penis...does that make sense? i could have sex, i could get off, i could please someone, but it never felt like a connection..ever
after having sex as a woman, i can't say i was in love with anyone, but the sex was connected, and it was me and i didn't feel like a fraud in bed..i felt satisfied and connected

I can't get off when having sex the "traditional" way. I feel connected with my boyfriend because I love him... not simply because I'm using my penis. I still enjoy sex FAR more when he's focusing more on other parts of me and when I don't have my flawed body in the back of my mind.

There is no way in hell I would just be able to have sex with some non-trans guy I don't love... with or without my penis. And if my boyfriend wasn't an FTM, I would most definitely have even more issues with having sex and I don't even know if I would want my penis to come into the equation since he wouldn't really understand how I feel about it.

In our relationship, we are both transexual and we both have parts that we don't want... we both know what the other is dealing with.

So you're saying that because I can enjoy being with my boyfriend with or without my penis, even though I still can't get off when I use it, that I still sometimes get depressed after using it, that I am not a transexual? You're saying that because my boyfriend can feel a connection with me when he uses his vagina, that he is not a transexual? I might be making an assumption that you are saying that this is an "important difference" between us because I'm not transexual like you... but I may just be getting defensive, so I apologize if this is not what you're saying.

Both of us would gladly swap our parts if we could... but it's not feasible for him and there is a chance it may not be feasible for me.

I went through the process that few have and I stand here and say if your not willing to follow through with the transition process then you are not like me, you are not transsexual, and you are not a woman because women don't have penises.

So by that you are also saying men don't have vaginas... but there are tons of FTMs and supporters who would spit in your face if you said that to them in person.

I gave you more credit than you deserve Kate. You are just as bad as the preachers and the religious fundamentalists. The genitalia does not determine the gender... SRS does not make you transexual. I am very happy to not be like you... I would never want to be like you. But I am a transexual, and you can take that as a slap in the face if you want.