What being a TS is NOT

[Bree-asaurus]

Excuse me? That's just an outrageous statement considering the source. It's also a little bizarre that you continue to talk about this real world like you're the only one who lives in it.

I believe Katesback lives in her own fantasy world where people who don't follow her path are not transexual. She seems to know so much about everyone else without actually knowing anyone she is criticizing. I think she assumes that because people post on here, they are living out their fantasies on the internet... and until you post on here proclaiming you got SRS, you aren't a REAL SERIOUS transexual. I use this forum as a place to meet other people going through what I'm going through, to vent, and to share my experiences. I live my own life, and have my own struggles and am going through my own transition in the "real world." She doesn't see this though so she's still the supreme transexual with the power to diagnose all others.

So you are weighting the career over transition. It appears you place that at the highest importance and thats fine. The problem is then you sacrifice transition which is something that takes 100% effort. Also do you think that living as a woman but willingfully keeping your penis is going to help you succeed? I mean really? In most places you cannot change records such as social security. To your employer your social security will indicate your MALE.

How is getting SRS going to help her succeed? SRS is something she would do for herself... not her job. You kinda need to have a career to afford SRS...

A background check will still show that you had your name and gender changed. Some states, you can't even change your birth certificate. Being born the wrong gender will ALWAYS follow you, wherever you go. Personally, if I stay self employed, I'll be fine. But if I ever get another job in my field, it's highly likely that I will need to get a background check. Guess what shows up then? Even after my license is changed, and after my California birth certificate states I'm female, that change is still recorded and will still be found. It's something you have to live with.

Transition takes a lot of work, but not everyone is willing to make the rest of their lives miserable just to cut off a growth. Not everyone is in your position Kate, so everyone is going to take their own personal road to transition. I'm certainly not going to lose everything and add an insane amount of additional stress to an already stressful life to "give it 100%" like you say. I'm going to play it smart, take my time and have a happy life AND successfully transition... not trade one misery for another.

Transitioning is expensive, and it is extremely helpful to have the rest of your life on track to be able to do it. I don't need my house. I can have an apartment. I don't need all my cars, I just need one. I am willing to severely reduce my lifestyle, but I'm not willing to lose my job. If I lose my job, I lose the ability to pay for electrolysis, HRT, SRS, etc.



Kate, why don't you write a book on the perfect way to transition since you have it all figured out for everyone else?