What being a TS is NOT

[JulieK1980]

As far as becomming a woman. Yes being TS is becomming a woman. Sure your a woman in your head but your not in the eyes of the world. That my dear is the journey a REAL TS is willing to take. She is willing to become a woman in the eyes of the world and take all the shit that comes with doing that. Because the process of becomming a woman in the eyes of the world is possibly the hardest thing a person can do it takes 100% effort. Baby steps, not wanting SRS, pondering for years and years, living life part time as a woman, waivering back and forth, compromising this 100% effort because one wants to stay married only leads to pain and suffering.
Perhaps this is why you have seen me say a person needs to make a decision they can live with and EXECUTE that decision.

For many the execution of their decision is *gasp* different then you. Can't imagine why you are no longer working in an "official" capacity. You can argue what is, and what isn't all you would like. We all at this point know what your view is. That's fine. Good for you! However, myself and, (I'm sure many others) will continue back to the real world where everything isn't all nice and black and white for us. I do envy you in your ability to limit the world to simplistic views like that, however I'm unable to narrow my vision that much.

In all honesty though, your insistence that your way is right, and you know all, while appearing self pretentious, is looking a lot more at an attempt at self justification. I think you have some underlying regrets and worries over your path, and feel threatened by people that choose other paths. Every time someone disagrees with you, you feel the need to belittle them, and criticize them. Or perhaps it's not related to your transition at all, perhaps it's some other issue in your life that is leading you to "stagnation" instead of "generativity." Who knows.

In reality though, I hope you realize that most of us that take a different road than you could care less what you or anyone else thinks of OUR choices. If we are shunned by nearly all of society, what a few pretentious post-op transexuals think of us, isn't even going to register on our radar. More likely we will just feel sad for you, and hope that you can overcome your personal issues. I really see it as a shame. You probably do possess a wealth of information that could help countless people, but your own narrow vision negates the benefits of that information.

But, then what do I know, I'm apparently destined to be a star in porn as a she-male. Well, least the paycheck will be nice. :brolleyes: