Yikes Kaitlyn you came loaded for bear this time.
I think it's easy to see why I like you and it has nothing to do with how adorable I may be. ;-) You may not have noticed, but you exhibit a lot more finesse than the rest of your team. I really don't have a problem with your position. You are certainly welcome to your feelings and opinions and they are every bit as valid as I claim mine to be. Perhaps more so in regard to SRS since I haven't any first hand experience to speak of. I never said SRS wasn't a worthy goal and I certainly never said it was unnecessary. I also never said that I WANTED my pickle. I said I have one, and I'm okay with it. We've come to an agreement.

What keeps my fingers clacking in this thread is the blatant attempt to minimize my struggle or my accomplishments simply because I reported that SRS doesn't happen to be a priority. Why? I don't know exactly, but right now I feel like my gender confirmation will come from being accepted as a woman by the outside world. If I had the vag right now, I doubt I would feel more womanly than I already do, but I know it wouldn't help me pass better. I'm not full time yet principally because I have another year left of hair removal and I don't want to be the bearded lady. Similarly, what advantage does being a dude with a hooha bring me? I've said it before, I may indeed go all the way someday. Is it killing me to have a dangler? Not at all, I made peace with that thing many years ago.

I don't see anyone devaluing the surgery, these girls are reacting to the rather rude assertion that they must FEEL a certain way in order to be considered "real". Kate's point wasn't what you do, it's what you WANT to do. I reject out of hand anybody's assertion that I feel one way or another about anything. I'll feel the way I feel and that's the end of it. The funny thing about out Trans people, is that we have decided that we will finally live our lives by our own rules and I don't care who thinks they know better, I will follow my bliss and create the life I see in my heart. There are people who support me, and people who don't. I find it much more productive to spend time with the positive people, life is hard enough as it is. Why would someone put arbitrary obstacles in their own way just to satisfy the whims of the self appointed guardians of whatever?

What exactly is Kate saying that I need to hear? That I'm not TS? It's been said over and over and I get it, the post-ops don't think I'm TS. Now what? I'm not arguing to get the tattoo. I'm arguing that I know I feel and how I've felt my whole life. Everything about me is feminine. I've wished I was born a girl since I can remember. I honestly don't know what that is supposed to make me but I'll be damned if someone else is gonna tell me who I am, I've done that already.

I was born this way, I never got to decide if this is what I wanted but I deal with it the best way I can. If someone doesn't like my style, what can I do? I am who I am. If you people want to marginalize or negate me, I'm sure you'll understand if I'm not impressed. Show me something I haven't seen already.