Nature vs Nurture? Is CDing genetic, or learned (or both!)

[ReineD]

Any activity that that is not defined as totally feminine is perfectly acceptable by most females as just something that is normal when they want to do it unlike a male doing any activity that is not defined as totally masculine is.

Actually females can be quite cruel about such things, depending on the group. The "Barbie Doll' type crowd can especially be very cruel when it comes to such things.

I guess I can understand what the "Barbie Doll" type is. In my drawer full of definitions, it describes the undeveloped and immature female, the "Valley Girl" teenager, of the "gag me with a spoon" ilk. I guess some such girls grow up into shallow, superficial women, but when I close my eyes and actually picture the women that I know I can't think of anyone who would put down a male for enjoying art, appreciating fashion or design, wishing to decorate a room or bake a cake, or any other activities that some people here define as being feminine.

I hope my SO will forgive me for saying this, but she told me years ago it was her femme side that gave him permission to appreciate and begin to collect art a decade ago. I've also read on a few occasions here that ironically, many CDers fall into stereotypically male professions, such as airline pilots, or in the sciences, engineering, or IT fields. I've long suspected that CDers (I'm reluctant to say "some" or "many") do build an inordinately strong male veneer while they are growing up in order to prevent the world from seeing their more vulnerable, feminine proclivities and so there is a stronger demarcation between what is "feminine" and what is "masculine" for them. This may make them shy about saying they want to bake a cake, or knit a scarf, or having a strong opinion about what color should go on the wall, or even think they will be rejected by others for doing these things?

Lots of our discussions here revolve around concepts and general statements, and it's true that some sections of the socio-economic strata may be more or less tolerant of a guy who bakes a cake, for example. It's very difficult to make statements that will be universally applicable since obviously what might fly in the middle of NYC won't fly in a small town in a conservative state. But still, I honestly don't believe there are as many "feminine" vs. "masculine" activities as many members here seem to think, of course other than actually dressing or presenting in the gender opposite than birth, especially once people move away from the often less tolerant teen-age or young adult age.