Cd admirers, why are there so many?

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I would very strongly differentiate between individuals who are attracted to TG people in real life from those who may lurk around the aforementioned sites. In recent months, I have met a number of women - bright, intelligent and inquisitive women seemed very interested in getting to know me. I don't know that they were necessarily attracted to me because I was presenting as female, or not....but it wasn't a deterent. Are they admirers? I probably wouldn't characterize them that way.

I agree with Kim. There is a big difference between an attraction to someone who also happens to crossdress, and a fetish for a particular group of people just for sex. Moondog in post #74 points out several racial fetishes (not to be confused with a real attraction to someone of a different race), such as white women who are into black men, caucasian men who are into oriental women, etc.

I would not like to be an object of someone else's fetish unless of course I was looking strictly for sex and nothing else. I do recognize there are people who don't wish for more than purely sexual relationships and this is fine too, if they are realistic about the particular fetishes they are into. But I have little tolerance when someone is not up front with what they're doing. If two men, one of whom is dressed, are getting off on the fantasy they are a straight couple behind closed doors, that's fine, but please don't come here and say this is who you are. :p

Back to the term "admirer", Shannon, the term has been adopted by members of this community to denote men who have a fetish for other men dressed as women. This doesn't mean that the rest of us don't admire or love various individuals, but I wouldn't call myself an admirer for being into my SO. If I weren't in a relationship with my SO I wouldn't be hanging around in bars or on CraigsList looking for other CDers to have sex with. I wouldn't negate the possibility of being in a relationship with another CDer either, but the fact that he CDs would be just a small part of my overall attraction to him, should we hit it off.

[SIZE="2"]When my CD friends and I go out to our favorite LGBT club and elsewhere, we are usually the best dressed and best looking females in the place! Need to find places with a better quality of females.[/SIZE]

Tastes vary between cultures, age groups, and individuals. I'm sure you look very nice and all, but someone in their 20s who has an edgier style might not like the style of clothes you wear and to them, you wouldn't be the best dressed and best looking female there. This is not meant as an insult, just a reminder to recognize that other people's tastes may be different than your own. :p