OMG and you got boobs to LOL

[Veronica27]

Hi Willow

An optimistic approach to life generally leads to happiness and fulfillment. Think about the positives in your life, and they will help your to overcome the negatives. Crossdressing is an extremely therapeutic form of expression. It allows our own inner being to come to the forefront, and pushes other people's and society's expectations of what we should be and what we should do, into the background of our thoughts. We are taught, as young boys and men, to be extremely inhibited about self-expression, and crossdressing assists us in overcoming that inhibition. And the best part is that this form of therapy causes us no harm, and does not hurt anyone else.

You have an advantage that many of us older geezers didn't have. I am 72 and grew up thinking that there was nobody else like me. There were no signs of others being crossdressers, no internet to tell our stories, and only vague references to a small handful of wierdos who wore women's clothing for perverted reasons. You are able to be out to your friend and her mother which is a tremendous plus, and they seem willing to help in your journey.

Deb Weller has written an excellent post about showing empathy to others. Your friend and her mother are aware of your difficulties and are taking a positive approach to understanding and helping you overcome them. Others, including your mother, are going through their own personal struggles as well, and the best approach is to follow the example of your two friends. Show others that you care for them, want to understand them and are willing to help them, and the good vibes you receive overpower the negativity of your own dilemmas. I know it is difficult to suddenly turn things around in this way, but you start slowly and by doing little things, like listening, doing small favours and so on, and you begin to feel good about yourself.

Crossdressing, and writing about it on forums like this, are extremely healthy ways to get negativity out of your mind. Read about others adventures, and difficulties, and use the advice and knowledge you gain to help you formulate your own approach to life in general and crossdressing or transitioning (if that is your desire) specifically. You like to draw? Then do so as often as time permits, and show your work to others. Don't be overly concerned about your writing abilities. They have shown signs of improvement even on this thread. The more you write, the more proficient you will become. I provided some suggestions, not for you to obsess over them, but just as something to keep in the back of your mind when you are writing. Don't be apologetic about your writing or any other perceived shortcoming. That is negativity. Think positively.

Finally, by coming across with a positive personality, you endear yourself to others. People, as a rule, are turned off by our negativity, and it takes a positive sympathetic, and empathic person like yourself to bring out the positivity in others.

Keep writing, and I look forward to reading more of your adventures.

Veronica

[jillleanne]

I WISH IT WAS!!!!
No this is my totally ****ed up life. Im sorry it sounds that way to you and maybe I didnt write it now right maybe I tried to make it sound better for some reason cause I didnt want to I wasnt ready to show you just how miserable my life is most days. How me and my mom barely talk n why I hang onto Stacy cause its her that keeps the assholes away most days that get a kick outta treatin m e like shit and some walkin talking ****ing punching bag prob becuase they figure if they leave me alone maybe they can get in her pants. that my friends are my friends more cuase they are Stacys and got used to haaving me around . How would you like gettin bein a year older then everybody else cause you cant figure out school how I get called names every day. if this is some fantasy then please someone wake me up cause it ore like a nightmare most days.

Willow, go easy on yourself. It's not that you can't figure out school but rather school has not figured out how to teach everyone that learns differently. That Willow, is schools biggest problem, and the school systems are so wrapped up in building empires, they have forgotten their purpose.
(Thanks for slowing down and trying to use periods and capitals; much better and easier for us to read and I even get to breathe now and read at the same time. )

[sandra-leigh]

On the point of getting confused about friendship vs more: I ran in to notable troubles that way a number of times. I suspect that if I were single now, that I would probably still run in to the same issue.

How bad was it for me? This bad: I am 50 and every time in my life that I thought I was going on a date, I found out later that the other person hadn't been thinking of it as a date at all. Months later at times.

It went the opposite way, too: three women fell for me without my realizing anything more than friendship had been going on. (In the third case, I'd been falling for her at the same time, but due to circumstances I had reason to believe it was just friendship on her part, so I didn't want to say anything.)

It is often said by women that, "Guys will fall for anyone who just shows them some basic friendship", or "Most guys mistake basic friendship for interest." I don't think I got past that myself until well in to my... ummm, not so many months ago, to be honest.

It happens to many of us. I make no excuse about it. You will probably find yourself disappointed a number of times in your life. Don't feel bad about liking someone enough to feel there might possibly be a future (unless, that is, you find yourself doing it repeatedly for people who are definitely Not Available, or whom are really unsuitable people for you.)

For me, there were times when I kind of liked someone anyone, and some of their actions gave me the impression that they liked me, so I developed a feeling that I had better say something so that the two of us didn't miss the chance for something more developing. In those cases, being told No Thanks was somewhat of a relief to me, as I could let go of the stress of second-guessing the relationship. I think maybe that happened to me a fair bit when I was very lonely and wanted some relationship, and then met someone friendly, and I didn't want to lose the chance that some relationship could maybe work out. (That wasn't always the case, though: I still miss one of the women, 28 years later.)

Anyhow, don't feel bad about not knowing what is going on. Emotions are confusing at the best of times.

[Jenny Doolittle]

Hi Willow,

First off, ((((HUG))))

Life is tuff sometimes but I think you have found many many friends here in this forum. I know I already feel like a long lost aunt hearing your pleas for understanding.

As you grow older I am sure the friends you make will be long lasting and really, after high school school and you get out on your own in a world that accepts who you are, life does get better.

We all have a place in this world and you WILL find yours. I think you are already on your way with the friends you have found.

Good luck little one.

[Crysten]

Same sort of thing happened to me as a teen. No dressing though. Was seeing this girl for months. Spent a lot of time with her, thought it was going somewhere. Only to find out she had a 22 year old boyfriend who worked 12 hour shifts like 40 miles away. She told me I was just her friend and not to worry because she told her boyfriend I was gay so there wouldnt be a problem. I was crushed, of course, and stopped seeing her shortly thereafter, I figured she was dishonest with me and I didnt want any part of that. Wish her mom would have dressed me up, at least I would have gotten something out of the relationship.

[rebekkadg]

I WISH IT WAS!!!!
No this is my totally ****ed up life. Im sorry it sounds that way to you and maybe I didnt write it now right maybe I tried to make it sound better for some reason cause I didnt want to I wasnt ready to show you just how miserable my life is most days. How me and my mom barely talk n why I hang onto Stacy cause its her that keeps the assholes away most days that get a kick outta treatin m e like shit and some walkin talking ****ing punching bag prob becuase they figure if they leave me alone maybe they can get in her pants. that my friends are my friends more cuase they are Stacys and got used to haaving me around . How would you like gettin bein a year older then everybody else cause you cant figure out school how I get called names every day. if this is some fantasy then please someone wake me up cause it ore like a nightmare most days.

I love reading your posts Willow and yes your writing has improved drasticly since your first few posts but don't worry if about your writing style too much. I love seeing your passion about everything even though things don't come out clear all the time because really most the time everything that is bothering us is a lot more confusing and distressing than we can put words too. Emotions rarely make sense they just are no matter what great justification, poor justification, or lack of justification you put to them.

So keep on writing out what is going on in your life. Venting is good for you and writing it down and having to think about what your are telling people helps you figure out for yourself how you feel about things. If you aren't sure how you feel about the direction of your life there are far worse things you can do.

How do you prefer to be refrenced on this board by the way? In terms of gender pronouns do you want to be refered to as a he or a she for now? I know I am not the only one on the edge of how to refer to you. And even though it is seems like such a small thing and that it shouldn't matter, it really does change how people respond to you. Not in a good or bad way but there definitely is a different dynamic to how people respond to one another based on gender that we can try to avoid doing but end up doing anyway.

[carnut62]

Willow, You're not an idiot your just young and learning. Looking back there were several girls I was friends with that I didn't realize I could have probably had a more involved relationship with. And the ones that I wanted to have a relationship with thought of me as just a friend, and at least one I am still friends with today with no ill will. You will get better at reading this as you get older, you are young now it is your time to have fun.

So, did you enjoy the skirt and tights? Sounds like you left them on all night and you really got to clear your head with Stacy's mom and at least you know now and you don't have to agonize over is it this or that type of relationship anymore.

I came across this today and it made me think of you, but really probably every guy has been here at least once http://failbook.failblog.org/2012/02...e-application/


Hugs,
Tabitha

[Jennifer8]

Theres been a bunch of stuff going and Im gonna try to get to it and everybody that posted. Im really tryin to write better its just when i write i sometimes just sorta stare at the keys and not what im writing. I cant you knwo type type lookin at the screen and when Im done I go back and look at it. I type better with my thumbs LOL. Im trying to get my feelings out so i dont ever really know what Im gonna said til I say it. I type like i talk.
THank you everyone for the help.

You ROCK GIRL!! Just be yourself I love your writing style, it reminds me of my daughter's writing. If I didn't know any better I thought you sound like a teenage girl.
already there a very pretty teenage girl.

Thank you from me n Stacy she thinks so to

Hello, Willow! I enjoyed your story very much, and I hope to read more from you in the future. You sound a bit confused,

And, oh, yes, some people have made some remarks about your writing. Do the best you can and don't worry about it, would be my advice.

I am trying Thanks and Stacy n Wendy are helping
Oh thats Stacys moms name she said it silly to keep saying Stacys mom

[COLOR="blue"]
Willow, I want to apologize
professional help
you wish to be identified as a Guy or a Girl.u might be a girl inside.

WOW you write a lot LOL. Thank You. it was sorta funny
I saw them for other stuff and really didnt like it to much.
Being called a girl is ok for em.

Willow.
You are dealing with it.. be proud of yourself for that.
and I've always found it harder to deal with my own kids, rather than to deal with other peoples' kids .. that might help explain your mom's position.
Spend some time trying to develop more empathy for her.

Thank You Ya well I guess its cause Wendy can say go home when she gets tired of me LOL and my mom is stuck with me. Im trying to not fight with her.

Willow, go easy on yourself.
That Willow, is schools biggest problem,
Thanks for slowing down and trying to use periods and capitals; much better

Im trying to and Im just trying to deal without makin it worse there

On the point of getting confused about friendship vs more:
"Most guys mistake basic friendship for interest."
Don't feel bad about liking someone enough to feel there might possibly be a future
Anyhow, don't feel bad about not knowing what is going on. Emotions are confusing at the best of times.

the thing that confused me with Stacy was shes really touchy-feely <her words> and that ok its just she doesnt do that stuff as much when she had a b/f. We talked and i know why she does it now so its ok and i do kinda like it.
She says if i get uncomfortable -or annoyed :Angry3: like now she will stop. try to stop. shes sitting next to me now poking me and holdin my arm so im typing with 1arm. she knows ive been writing stuff n thinks it great im here. and puched mein thearm for not tellin her sooner and naming this tread what she said. And were more then friends but you know not like that. She said im her bff. Thank You

I love reading your posts Willow and yes your writing has improved drasticly
I love seeing your passion about everything
So keep on writing out what is going on in your life.
How do you prefer to be refrenced on this board by the way?

Thank You I will SOmeone else asked that to. being called a girl is good for me.

You're not an idiot
, did you enjoy the skirt and tights? Sounds like you left them on all night and you really got to clear your head with Stacy's mom and at least you know now and you don't have to agonize over is it this or that type of relationship anymore.
I came across this today and it made me think of you,

Ya Stacys told me that like 100 times already.
I did and Im glad i kept it on cause Stacy said if i woulda changed before she got home she woulda beat me
YA I typed a big thing out about me n Stacy above.
Thank You

Things with me and my mom are weird and Im trying not to fight with her n we got in a fight anyway about stupid stuff and I been staying with Stacy till we get better. I still talk to her everyday to let her know im ok n shes been talking to Wendy to so its ok me bein away from her right now.

[Kaz]

Willow... you are young, explore! enjoy! Break away and figure out who you are. It is what we all have to do... friends are good... but they are mostly part of the journey... Real friends stay for ever...

[Sammy777]

Sounds like not much gets past her does it?
Like others have said, you have a good friend there.
I hope things continue to improve for you and that you also continue to keep up the line of communications with your mom.

[Matia]

Okay, here comes debbie downer. But, what her mom did and said, sounds a little creepy to me. Maybe its just the way you wrote it. But, the way she kept asking if you were alright and if she could keep going? Well, yeah...If it happened just the way you said... well, I think if I were your mother, I might advise you to steer clear of alone time with Stacy's mom.
Also, give your mom some credit. She may not be willing to do all those things with you, but as its been said many times on this forum, its easier to accept and experiment, when its in someone else's backyard.

Agreed. And I'm quite sure if you are honest with your mum and she loves you she would give you support as well, tho much less sexually exciting (can't help to think this is very much like a fictionmania.tv story)

[jjjjohanne]

I'm just not convinced that this isn't a fantasy story.

[Tara D. Rose]

Hi Willow. I loved your story. I wish I could have had that kind of experience like you described when I was your age. You do look like a natural girl from your avatar picture. You remind me of myself when I was that age. Like you, I was naturally mistaken for being a real girl from 8 years old until I was 25 years old. I think I can speak for all of us on here in that, we’re here for you and will help you in any way that we can. We are your friends on here, to give you support, understanding, friendship and advice. We all want you to continue to stay with us and share all of your hopes and dreams and even your sadness if ever that may be in your life. I personally look forward to reading many more of your posts.

Please don’t take it to heart about the good members on here commenting on your typing and or writing skills. They are only trying to help you with good intentions. Yes it does need a little work, but please don’t get discouraged. I have been criticized for that on here as well, and so I have slowed down the speed of my typing which helped me. We’re all here for you. You are doing better. Heck, I can't even do the multiple posting on here. Welcome aboard my young friend.

Love, Peace, & Respect,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Tara

[Foxglove]

I'm just not convinced that this isn't a fantasy story.

This question has already been asked, and Willow's denied it. If we're not going to take people at face value on this forum, then just about anything here can be regarded as fantasy. I've no doubt there is some fantasy on this forum--but if I wanted to question somebody's truthfulness, I think I'd at least give a reason for my doubts. Willow is telling her story, and I myself see no reason to question her truthfulness.

[Sammy777]

I hate to overstep my bounds here, although it does seem to be "my thing" lately.

I went to "that site" and all I have to say is:
Those stories make cheesy Fabio covered romance novels look like war and peace.

Funny I don't remember seeing the OP mentioning things like:
oh my prettiest ruffled pink VS panties
french maid, cheer leading or schoolgirl outfits
or 10' minis and 8' stilettos [Sorry I had too]

What I do see however is obviously a scared, confused, bullied kid that definitely has some unresolved issues to deal with. And on that note, this wraps up Pop Psych 101 for today.