How do you handle Straight Men?

[ReineD]

Be careful with guys who are attracted to you in girl-mode and say they aren't gay or bi. There is a lot of repression going on there and that only leads to disaster.

I guess it's time to post a link to Alice in Genderland again: http://aliceingenderland.com/Manhunt.html

Excerpt:

Each admirer is a bird unable to fly. Maybe he’s flown before? Maybe he’ll develop tail feathers of his own and shake them around in style in the future? But for now he’s limited by something. And that same thing that keeps him from being a terribly happening woman may be what’s keeping him from being an especially happening man.

That’s why admirers tend to be a heavier and older bunch of men. It would make sense if they were also taller, though I haven’t seen that near as much as I’d like. Some may have their wings clipped by lack of a steady job, car, or apartment. Many are married and unable to get out except under the rarest of circumstances. Some may be constrained by psychological baggage, religious guilt, or macho ethnic tradition.

But the problem for a man-loving TG like me is that once one of these fellows shakes off his shackles and sheds some pounds he may not emerge as a hot, happening man on the scene; he may just show up next week in a dress. “Darn,” I’ve often complained, “the best men here tonight are women.”

So, with all that being said, maybe it’s better to leave your local tranny night behind and look for straight men at a nearby singles bar. That’s all well and good but unless you’re 5’ 6” and Filipino or a slender white girl with amazing FFS, you’re not going to fool anybody. And if you think the men you reel in are pure, straight men with no clue, then you’re only fooling yourself—pleasant as that may be.

[seanmuscle]

I guess it's time to post a link to Alice in Genderland again: http://aliceingenderland.com/Manhunt.html

Excerpt:

Rennee straight men are attracted to femininity. Not genitalia. A man loving a woman. Simple as that.

[Bree-asaurus]

Rennee straight men are attracted to femininity. Not genitalia. A man loving a woman. Simple as that.

I think a quick street corner poll will pretty much destroy that argument. Very few straight men will be open minded enough to consider being with a transexual MTF. Even less would consider a crossdresser.

[Matia]

I think a quick street corner poll will pretty much destroy that argument. Very few straight men will be open minded enough to consider being with a transexual MTF. Even less would consider a crossdresser.

not sure the quantity of people answering would make their statement true.. much of what we do or discuss here is binded with society and how it perceives sex / genders. I think the biggest crap in this area is a result of catholic church, you can see this if you compare our culture and approach to sex and differences to say japan or thailand. The fact that there might be certain amount of bi sexuality in every person would be hardly accepted in society that is ruled by men, and where unfortunately femininty is often seen as weakness. The question is, -why- would straight men reject such option. For example, in ancient rome, gay sex was a pretty regular thing, and having a "pretty boy" slaves was kind of normal for the roman elity. It was actually one of the fast ways how to get to politics, to become a lover of an important person in roman society. Sexuality is very much binded with culture social behaviour and politics, most of closeted cds here do it because they are worried they might loose family or work because it's a stigma. Still we can already see how much the society changed even in last 10-20 years, and who knows what kind of acceptance the various sexualities will have in 20 years time.

Hyphotetically , we might reach the point where medically we would be able to change gender in a way that it will be fully functional, what would this cause to the gender confusion ? (dont want to offend anyone , just trying to show a different perspective)

[seanmuscle]

not sure the quantity of people answering would make their statement true.. much of what we do or discuss here is binded with society and how it perceives sex / genders. I think the biggest crap in this area is a result of catholic church, you can see this if you compare our culture and approach to sex and differences to say japan or thailand. The fact that there might be certain amount of bi sexuality in every person would be hardly accepted in society that is ruled by men, and where unfortunately femininty is often seen as weakness. The question is, -why- would straight men reject such option. For example, in ancient rome, gay sex was a pretty regular thing, and having a "pretty boy" slaves was kind of normal for the roman elity. It was actually one of the fast ways how to get to politics, to become a lover of an important person in roman society. Sexuality is very much binded with culture social behaviour and politics, most of closeted cds here do it because they are worried they might loose family or work because it's a stigma. Still we can already see how much the society changed even in last 10-20 years, and who knows what kind of acceptance the various sexualities will have in 20 years time.

Hyphotetically , we might reach the point where medically we would be able to change gender in a way that it will be fully functional, what would this cause to the gender confusion ? (dont want to offend anyone , just trying to show a different perspective)

I agree. Polls do not reflect what men do or would do in the bedroom. We all know this