I believe they're called, "CD Admirers"!
I believe they're called, "CD Admirers"!
U can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect to enjoy life to the max. When u try new things, even if they r out of your comfort zone, u may experience new excitement and growth that u never expected.
Challenge yourself and pursue your passions! When your life clock runs out, you'll have few or NO REGRETS!
I guess it's time to post a link to Alice in Genderland again: http://aliceingenderland.com/Manhunt.html
Excerpt:
Originally Posted by Going On A Manhunt, by Alice Novic
Reine
FWIW, I think "gay" and "straight" are made up ideas drilled into us by a repressive society. The day when we realize that we are attracted to people for who they are, how they act and how they treat us (instead of by genital category) will be a glorious day.
Poor guy, he's been telling himself all his life that he's straight, and now he finds someone that doesn't fit the standard category type. So maybe he decides 'what the hell' and breaks thru some of those societal walls. Good for him! But people don't change over night, and you will be the canvas onto which he will work out his existential crisis. Do you really want that?
I am not who you think I am
well honestly i just assess how i feel about him. it goes one way or another from there.
...that make me "gay?" or him?
whatever.
get over it. it's not a big deal.
i consider myself lucky for my overall shape (thin), but if i get unwelcome come-ons, the guy switch is thrown and then most guys back off when they realize they're not getting what they're after without a serious threat to their health and well-being.
this awareness has made me popular with girls... they like feeling safe and protected, and being a CD is an instant flag that says you're not hiding much. so i have a lot of girl friends... and being mostly straight, this is to my liking =)
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Leighann ...bad girl ! ...but you"re right ...it does sort things out pretty quickly and is a great answer to the OPs original question
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not sure the quantity of people answering would make their statement true.. much of what we do or discuss here is binded with society and how it perceives sex / genders. I think the biggest crap in this area is a result of catholic church, you can see this if you compare our culture and approach to sex and differences to say japan or thailand. The fact that there might be certain amount of bi sexuality in every person would be hardly accepted in society that is ruled by men, and where unfortunately femininty is often seen as weakness. The question is, -why- would straight men reject such option. For example, in ancient rome, gay sex was a pretty regular thing, and having a "pretty boy" slaves was kind of normal for the roman elity. It was actually one of the fast ways how to get to politics, to become a lover of an important person in roman society. Sexuality is very much binded with culture social behaviour and politics, most of closeted cds here do it because they are worried they might loose family or work because it's a stigma. Still we can already see how much the society changed even in last 10-20 years, and who knows what kind of acceptance the various sexualities will have in 20 years time.
Hyphotetically , we might reach the point where medically we would be able to change gender in a way that it will be fully functional, what would this cause to the gender confusion ? (dont want to offend anyone , just trying to show a different perspective)
I have no desire to handle any men, now women......
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
Let's not get too far afield. The OP wants to get her groove on, but she's concerned about rockin' the world of some poor straight guy to the extent that he no longer wants real women.
My advice to her, is simply go girl, and let the chips fall where they may. If he's interested in a CD gal, than he's already got desires, and if the experience wakes him up and he becomes openly bi or gay and no longer a 'phobic asshole on the DL, then we all win.
Let's all go out and convert a few straight dudes!
Leeiah,
If you are attracting men, and they know you are a crossdresser, they are not straight. Straight men have no interest in a sexual or romantic relationship with another man. Period. You can not "change" a straight man any more than one can change a gay man to be straight. We are born the way we are, it's genetic. If someone is chasing you and you want that, then fear not, you have changed nothing.
No Sean, straight men are attracted to women. Gay men are attracted to men. It's real simple. Genetics drive everything. There re many women who re not feminine yet they marry MEN and that man was attracted to a women whom fit his desires, and visa versa
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I do always wonder about the picture and video gallery section.do others wonder why when a really attractive cd posts pictures there are pages of replies and when a not so attractive cd posts there aren't very many regardless of the clothes on show.just sayin
If the man is respectful and seems to be on the level, I'll talk, and perhaps share a drink with him, if we have meet a bar or lounge, if I feel he is just a dude looking for you know what I'll turn away and ignore the guy. I always suspect men who want to chat up an old babe like moi.
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Are you sure about that? I think you gave a very boxed answer?
When I go out with my T girls to a straight bar we get all kinds of lewd offers from many of the men in the bar. Are you saying these men are gay?? Even though many of them were married with kids? Hmmm.
I thought like you until I put myself in a place were straight men were plentiful and a handful of CD girls were there among me.
Could that many men be bi or gay with a family and kids? I think there is more to it.
To the OP. You might want to check out this book "on the down low"
"How do you handle Straight Men?"
If you can't kill them with kindness then keep handcuffs in the night table
For the beginner out there might I suggest the "Smith and Wesson model 100"
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"Sammy, really next time do try to make your point without being quite so abrasive." -RD
Try this:
Say they have to write a 100 word essay on how gay they are, or else they aren't getting any.
I looked at the reviews and I'm quoting this one, from an anonymous gay black man:
Maybe the reason homophobia is so rampant is as an instinct of survival, as a way to make sure that men propagate their species. Maybe there are a heck of a lot more gay men than we ever imagine, because the secrets are held very deep. Maybe men just find better sexual matches (in terms of sexual appetite) among other men rather than women, in other words it is the sex that counts more than who they have it with.Originally Posted by Anonymous Reviewer of "On The Down Low"
I have a male friend who is from [I won't mention the state]. He said, "Back where I come from, men are men and sheep are scared".
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Reine
You may have a point there.
It's sad that when a woman is Bisexual it is seen as some sort of perk to the male population.
Yet they [some, not all, not that there is anything wrong with that ]
are so busy tripping over this chest thumping male bravo that the same sexual diversity in men [Bisexuality] is still frowned upon.
Oh and why have sex with a sheep over looking a cliff?
[Highlight the] Answer: The sheep push back LOL.
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Depends on the person.
I like men. I like men's manly parts.
I don't care for women... they're too... womany.
My boyfriend is FTM. He's a man, but missing a few parts :P It would be great if he had the right parts, but we make do with what we've got. What we have is more important than the physical.
And for the record, I'm not attracted to women, transexual women or crossdressing men.
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