Quote Originally Posted by Badtranny View Post
This is exactly what I'm talking about. I make a comment about not complaining unless you're working for the change and that is somehow interpreted as an attack. I would never suggest that anyone come out unless or until they are ready to do so, but if your are NOT prepared to stand proud then please do not complain about how un-accepting the world is. If the only CD's they see are the so called "bad examples" then show them something different. Show them a perfectly normal and well adjusted man who just happens to play dress up every now and then. Or a regular straight dude who just happens to be into feminine fashions. So many of you assert yourselves as manly men who "know how to handle themselves", well then stand up for yourself. Why is a femmy bottom girl like me not scared of other dudes, but the macho guys are acting like scared little girls, while they talk the big talk.

Or you could stay in the closet and act horrified and persecuted when a loudmouth like me calls you out on your BS. P.S. I don't mean YOU specifically, but you and yours generally.
I know the reason, and I will say it; loss of male privilege. The other reason is fear of the unknown, in other words what will we (I'm still wrestling with this myself) lose if we come out? I am out to my wife, my therapist and one old friend from high school. Another reason I'm not out is that my wife fears the same things I do, and fears losing respect "as a woman" for having married a man who wants to be a woman. I sincerely want to come further out in the future, but with a wife and children involved, it is not entirely my choice because it effects them as well as me. If I had accepted what I was before getting married... That is my great regret with regard to this.

All that said, you are absolutely right. It is like the Gay Rights movement, homosexuals didn't start getting respect until they stopped hiding. CD/TG/TS people won't gain respect until we stop hiding, which means pulling on our Big Girl panties and telling the world that we want to play or even be a girl.

Anna