Sandra,
Attempting to hold on to professional reputation and recognition for whatever reason is, ultimately a noose around your neck when it comes to transition.
I appreciate your concern for what you have built prior and up to this point however you must be willing to let that go in order to progress.
Here's a difficult question for you to hear Sandra; What if the friends and family members that you do not wish to lose contact and a relationship with don't wish to have a relationship with you once you transition??
I once thought that blood was thicker than water but in the end it was not.
I also ask you Sandra if you do not consider yourself a transsexual then all of this has become a moot issue.
If you are not in need of transitioning then why would you subject yourself to any of this?
Julia