Risking annoyance

[Elizabeth Ann]

Ultimately, I agree with others here. If your child is making a mistake, it is hers to make and also for her to experience the joy if she isn't. All you can do is be there for her should she ever need you.

Has she considered her career options with transition? My middle son has just received an undergrad degree and he at this point still has idealistic views on fending for himself in the real world. I did too, before I was out there. My son is at the tail end of receiving support from his parents. He is currently wavering between finding a job that will give him the salary he feels he deserves, or going on to grad school, which is what I did.

She is very bright, and wandered into a somewhat arcane niche in her Environmental Technology and Policy major. I have talked with her about this, and most of the employment in this field is in the public sector, which I think is good for her. For a while, she thought about going to law school (policy stuff), but now thinks she would like to go to grad school (tech stuff).

Even before all the transgender stuff started, she knew that a bachelor's degree was about as far as we could take her. She is grateful for that, knowing that I came from a very blue collar, four child household where I had to pay my own way from the beginning. I am pretty sure that she is good enough to get a TA or RA position that could get her through grad school, which is the way I did it.

Liz