I was worried that it might seem like I'm over-compensating but he does generally make me do a lot of the choosing (I'm not very good at surprises :/). We talked last night about it but he told me he felt ashamed of it still so this is something special. I feel weird in saying this but I don't want it to be an elephant in the room, so to speak, but I also don't want it to be an elephant in the room that we always talk about, because if we talked about it like its normal than he might be comfortable with it one day. I have no idea if that made sense at all :/
Thank you though, I shall try all of the above
