I have been in a non-accepting situation with my first wife who was also told well before we married and she still made the decision to go ahead with it.
That was until some issues came up which had nothing to do with my dressing but used the subject anyway to hurt me and make my life a literal hell for five years until we divorced.
So I stand by all of my comments and I still believe that most marriages are very one-sided with the wife having the upper hand.