Hello Polly,
I appreciate your wanting to join the board to try to help with my situation. I relate to some of the stuff you talk about, but I am wondering why you chose to hide your CD side from your wives. I am not really in any position to say anything, but did this deception possibly assist in the chain of events that eventually caused your divorces? If I have learned one thing from all of this, it is to be honest with your SO from day 1. Not something that should be brought up on the first date, but maybe before sex. I made that mistake with my SO because of a combination of shame, embarrassment, and it having taken place much earlier in life and I thought that part of my life was over. Boy, was I wrong, lol! If I had known that I would find the need to CD, I would've let her know before I asked her to marry me. Unfortunately, she found out because I was looking at it on the computer. If I could change something, it would've been that.
Thank you.
