You're better off single until you find the right one. If they're not the right one for you, or if you're not able to be yourself, might as well stay single. I finally met my love and things couldn't be better.
Keep in mind that my view of "able to be yourself" may be a bit biased towards my transexual issues which may be a little different than cross dressing, which seems to be an easier secret to keep :P
