Honestly, I think there's sometimes a reactionary elitist thing that can go on for the CD vs TG thing.
And, it's neither's fault, as it's not gotten to the point where people in general society 'get' the difference between a fetishistic CD versus a transgendered person; something that people get a kick from versus someone's gender identity. So, for the transgendered person, a CD sort of brings down their legitimacy, and so, of course, there's going to be distance and defense. And, for the semi-innocent CD, that ends up being elitism to them.
I do think that if CD's associated more with the fetish crowd (PVC, leather, etc), exclusively used "crossdresser"; instead of "transvestite" or the umbrella "tranny" ;and transgendered people associated with their associated gender and made it clear that they were a transgendered woman or a transgendered man, it would make things far more well understood to the world at large, getting rid of the problem you're posting about. But, that's all theory versus reality. Can't we all just get along?
But, anyway, I am closeted transgendered, as I've posted many times before. I don't get my rocks off on female clothes. In fact, I almost never dress. And, I'm not a crossdresser, at all. But, I do think you deserve to be able to live your life as you please.
