Quote Originally Posted by Sara Jessica
It troubles me that anyone in an open discussion forum would make significant use of such an "ignore" feature, especially in your case where you take such care in crafting thoughtful threads that provoke responses, mostly positive but sometimes critical. It doesn't seem to make much sense by covering your eyes and ears, singing "la la la" as if other points of view neither exist nor are valid in your eyes. What kind of discussion is that???
[SIZE="2"]So you support attacks on me?

The people on my ignore list are there because they insist on taking my writing apart, sentence by sentence, inserting critical comments, and not offering one word in the way of original thought (for discussion). I don’t WANT to ignore them, but...well...are you familiar with the word “bully?” It troubles ME that the ones causing me to act so drastically are the last ones to be aware of THEIR injurious words, or to display a conscience by way of apology or regret…[/SIZE]

You clearly haven't seen all of them.
[SIZE="2"]Yes I have, by way of quotes within other posts, as I have already explained. One way or another, despite my best efforts, a few “missles” still get through…[/SIZE]

Quote Originally Posted by ReineD
So Freddy, I have questions.
1.You've written many times that you live in a conservative area. If you lived in San Francisco for example, and you knew that you could dress, put on a wig, forms, and not be read as a man in a dress, would you enjoy going out to lunch and being treated like a woman?
2.Something drives you to dress, what is it and why does it offer you such joy and magic (your post #68)?
3.And how would you feel if I went to your house, took all your clothes and makeup away, and told you that you could never express Frédérique again, not even a single earring? Do you feel as if expressing Frédérique is as much a part of you as the other crossdressers in this thread who also adamantly refuse to use the term "transgender" for themselves?
4.Also, how do you know that your gender identity is as purely male as the men who do not crossdress?
[SIZE="2"]1. Please define “treated like a woman,” and grade your comments geographically…
2. Tactile pleasure. I believe that is begrudgingly referred to in some treatises on transvestism. There is a big difference between being a transvestite and being transgendered, but I know you disagree with my definitions. As for joy and magic, they are in the hearts and minds of individual dressers – I certainly don’t expect everyone to appreciate such simple (and personal) concepts…
3. I wouldn’t feel good about it, but the expression would still come out, one way or the other (as in my artwork, for example). I cannot answer for the other crossdressers in this thread – expression is a very private thing that is, in many ways, beyond discussion…
4. Who says it was? I just know I’m not transgendered, that’s all…[/SIZE]

And last, to address your other points regarding a perceived hierarchy within the TG community, I also agree that the pecking order in this community only lives in small-minded people's minds. No one is better or worse than anyone else, just different. And there are countless differences.
[SIZE="2"]This thread came about because a good friend of mine recently came back from the void, and was almost immediately buffeted by unsolicited opinions and advice, making a cloudy mindset only cloudier. I see this time and time again. I would prefer to say nothing and launch another “Tea Party,” but I feel for this friend of mine. I keep wondering that there are others who might come to a site like this, hoping for some reinforcement, or support, or maybe someone will say “It’s OK,” but they get a wheelbarrow-load of confusion instead. With that in mind, all I’m trying to say is this – there are some of us who are JUST crossdressers, with no pretensions to anything else, so please treat us accordingly. I agree - there are countless differences, and they should ALL have a voice…
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