Because we're not wearing men's clothes. We're wearing women's clothes.
Bzzzzzzzzzt. Wrong answer.
I cannot tell you how many restaurants I've been to where the waitress wears tuxedos and bow ties. It's pretty mainstream, and meant to be gender neutral.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.