Hi everyone, this is boo's boyfriend. I appreciate everyone's input and trying to help. A lot of you have some really good info. I just wanted to go through and try and help clear up where I lay at on the list of questions that were posted.


1) What does it mean to tell someone. After all these years and other girlfriends and close friends to talk to, why did he tell me after only two weeks of dating?

I've dated many girls in the past and never told any until now. I didn't feel comfortable enough telling any of them or anyone else for that matter. I had been wanting to tell her for months before I finally did as we have been really close friends for a while. I honestly felt and still feel closer and most comfortable with her than anybody else. I actually told her that I like to crossdress a few weeks before we started dating. At this point I was seriously considering dating her as I felt that we were perfect together and really couldn't imagine being without her. I guess this was my way of wanting her to know about my secret beforehand in case we did take our relationship to the next level. I told her that I like to crossdress and she didn't think much of it when I originally told her. She sounded very excited about it, which I didn't expect so much excitement. She even suggested me dressing up as Cher for Halloween. I was relieved that she took it so well, but also very worried that it didn't raise any concerns for her. It was a huge weight off of me to finally tell someone that I know. A few weeks later we became more that friends, we had never said any more about it, but it began to bother me that she didn't ask any more questions or bring it up as I thought it would have and I was just as nervous to even bring it up again as I was to originally tell her. A few weeks after we began dating I decided to bring it up again. I wanted to be certain she understood the first time. She didn't take it so well. She didn't remember me originally telling her at all and it kind of made me feel bad that she didn't "know" before we began dating, but am very happy that I "refreshed" my secret with her so early into our new relationship. I felt more relieved the second time around as I got the reaction more on the end that I was expecting and that she understood this time. That week was very rough for us with this situation but am glad that we got to talk a lot of it out.


2) Is it possible to maintain a relationship if I preferred not to be involved?

We have discussed this together and I would be fine and would understand if she wished not to be involved. I would be fine with her not wanting to be around when I decided to dress up. I would only want her to be understanding that it is something that I do and be fine with me doing it on my own time even if she wishes not be around. I want her to treat me like the man that I am when I am as myself and don't want her to look at me as being less manly because of what I am...and as she has told me she does still know that I am still the same MAN. I also want her to not feel ashamed like she is doing something wrong if she chooses to have little involvement in it, which I think is something that bothers her BIGTIME. It's not her fault and that is just who she is and how she feels and I understand that. I wouldn't think any less of her as being a great person.


3) Is this more about being a female or the clothes just feeling nicer?

When I began wearing clothes as a kid, the desire to crossdress was completely for the feeling of the clothes. Now that I am older it is a mixture. I still like it for the feeling but also like it for the feeling of looking like a girl. As far as clothes choice, I like clothes that feel good on my body, more form fitting stuff versus loose fitting almost naked feeling clothes. I prefer to look like a girl if I am crossdressing. The only exception is if I were just wearing lingerie (panties, night gown etc.) I would be ok and like wearing those as a boy.


4) Will there come a time when everyone he knows should find out? Will he want to tell everyone?

I have no future desire to tell anyone else...at least for a decade or 2 lol. It was hard enough telling the person I am most comfortable with that I am a crossdresser so other people knowing....probably no time soon....or maybe ever. I definitely want to keep this secret for a while.

5) Is CD always a sexual thing? Is it just a turn on or what?

CD is not a big sexual thing to me. It never has been, it's always been more about wanting to look like a girl and the feeling of the clothes. I am sometimes aroused by it but not a big part of why I do it or what I get out of it. I would say that after I am done crossdressing I often really want to have sex...but then again I often want to have sex from just waking up lol.


6) Can you describe how it feels to dress? Like is it a thrilling feeling?

To me dressing makes me feel pretty ^_^...but deeper than that, crossdressing to me makes me feel stress free. I have no worries when I do it. It is relaxing. It feels like I am just floating and can be whatever without matter. Whatever problems I have or whatever issues are bothering me are not important while I dress. Crossdressing is also well...just plain fun to me. It's like halloween but I only want to dress as different types of girls.


7) I've suggested that he get clothes that are made for men but look like women's clothing so it will fit better. He is not interested, he wants legitimate women's clothing. Is that true for you too and why?

Well this one has already been answered so no need