How can I be a good gf to my CD bf?

[Vickie_CDTV]

Hi Hisboo,
I, too, am the girlfriend of a CD.
1. Be very, very glad that he is telling you early in the relationship. You still have options and are not tied to him by children, shared assets or joint debt.
3. There is a very strong probability that he will want to either dress full time or actually get hormones/surgery within 10-20 years.

I have to respectfully disagree that all dressers will inevitably become transsexuals. I know that some later realize they are transsexuals and transition, but this is not true for all who crossdress. Transvestism is really a phenomenon in of itself, and not just a layover on the journey to transsexualism.

Even among transsexuals, statistically speaking only a small percentage ever have SRS (either because they opt not to, or cannot for various reasons.)

However, I cannot agree more about creating commitments and ties to each other (especially having children!) until both people have had a meeting of the minds and fully understand and agree on the "terms" of the "contract" (which is what marriage literally is after all.) Even among average cisgender couples this is crucial to understand what each person wants and expects in a relationship. Folks also need to know each other heart and soul, inside and out, backwards and forwards before making such a big commitment, and that includes the TVism among other things as well.)

A little more insight into our relationship.
We began as girlfriends.. I would give him female names as well. We had "sleepovers" at my house where we played games and I dressed him in my clothes, put makeup on him, painted his nails, talked to him about the guys I dated etc... I never thought anything about it. (I had a little brother, and it was similar to when I was kid) Also, I made him into a female friend so that I would not develop feelings for him and ruin our amazing friendship. We are both in our mid-twenties and it was just nice for us to both be silly together and act childish. I never imagined that he wore women's clothing alone or that he had been doing it since he was little. I just thought it was awesome that he was willing to be my life-size baby doll. Now that I know about CD I feel guilty for making him dress up as a joke before I knew, even though he says it's ok. Kind of like making a sexist inappropriate joke or something.

I am curious, you dressed him up before he told you he was a crossdresser? If you did (and you don't mind me asking of course), I am curious, what prompted it?