So what you are saying is that we should just what???Hide??? Not dress up to go out and then stop on the way home? Maybe we should just wear jeans and T-shirts? I don't really know what you mean. I was dressed to be out in public on a Saturday night. I wasn't dressed in fetish gear, nor was I dressed in what I have seen other GG's wear to clubs downtown. I had on 2.5 inch Mary Janes. I didn't have stockings on I was bare legged. I had on make up that would be appropriate for dinner, it was nowhere near drag. So how was I making "us" look bad? I didn't do anything to this woman except smile (both my hands were holding plastic bags) and quietly I said "Hi".Originally Posted by Frédérique
[SIZE="2"]I’m sorry, but I don’t see how this type of encounter helps to un-marginalize TG people…[/SIZE]
Her attitude as being described "holier than thou" wasn't really religious. Maybe a better way would be that she had a superiority complex? Religion wasn't part of the encounter.
And we are not academicians here, we are not linguists. You want precise meanings for how I describe people then this woman was rude, ignorant and obnoxious. You don't like moron? I will take idiot.
Freddy you can take the woman's side. I don't care. The majority of the world sees the TG community as clowns, perverts or criminals. I know that. It is because the majority of the TG community won't stand up and say "I am everyday people". Seems to me that you are not out in the world (forgive me if I am wrong here). I believe that instead of railing against the wind from the safety of my home, I go out. I go out and present as a good person, not a fetishist, not a drag queen, not as some would say a skank. I also don't believe that the way we get the right to be out and seen is to to dress like we are invisible. Those who want to wear jeans and T's good for them I buy my clothing at common middle of the road stores. It is the same thing a woman who dressed for a job would wear or a woman who was going to somewhere for dinner where they had tablecloths. Those who have met me know this.
I do in fact expect the average citizen to have patience and compassion. I expect that for anyone in any circumstance. Ignorance and bigotry are things that "civilized" people don't accept. We are supposedly evolved beyond this. This was no different than if someone had stated to any other minority some sort of stereotypic drivel. It was shocking at first, then it was hurtful, then it made me angry, then it made me sorry for her. In the big picture? It was one person out of maybe 200 I saw last night who could not be grown up enough to keep her unsolicited opinions to herself.
