Leslie, at your current pace, you and your wife are heading for a divorce. You are bound and determined to do something that clearly bothers your wife. You are going to do it and she is going to make you pay for it. No good can come of this if it continues.
You keep saying your wife is "controlling" but she doesn't seem to be controling your dressing (and going out dressed), you are still doing it. She is just showing her dissaproval by her attitude towards you.
If you want to stay married to your wife and want to have a happy, satisfying marriage, you both need to compromise. You need to sit down and talk about why you feel the need to go out (without her) as a female and why it bothers her so much.
From what I get from reading your posts, it's not just the dressing, it's the going out and having fun without her just like it might be if you spent all your free time with your male buddies fishing or playing poker.
The bottom line is, it's up to you to fix this with your wife or split up and set each other free. Strangers on a web forum agreeing with you that your wife is "controlling" will not help your situation.
