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[DeniseNJ]

If you are as miserable as you claim, then move on. If you choose to remain, then stop martyring yourself. It will only feed both of your resentment. If you choose to stay, then suck it up and try to help her with her problems.

People like what you describe can be toxic, and they also have to want to be helped. If everything you say is accurate, then it may be time to consider moving on.

You make ugly painful separations seem like a walk in the park. Move on you say !!! so the way you make it sound just packup when ever I caN FIT in in little hatch , quit my job yank out my measly 12G's out of my savings account and move on . IUf it was that simple and uncomplicated , I would have done it years ago. If it were up to her for me to move on, I must first be drug thru the mud, humiliated,forced to make irrational decessions, made to use all my assetts to pay for a lawyer who will empty every pocket out and that is just my lawyer HER lawyer will keep shaking out my pockets till all that I will have left a useless shell of a person with no purpose in life. TOXIC is a good word you use once exposed to a toxin and it gets in your system the damage can be irriversable