Quote Originally Posted by ReineD View Post
... as is the decision to stay home and raise babies. I agree, some feminists take it too far and believe there should be no gender differences. Women and men are biologically different and they are motivated differently. This should be honored, not reviled. At the same time just because a woman embraces her femininity and motherhood doesn't mean that she is not a multi faceted individual. She needs to be respected as an equal and seen for more than her femininity or sexuality ... or her clothes. :p

I totally agree with your point, Babs. And honestly, to reverse the tables, if I saw my ideal of a perfect male, handsome beyond compare and with a body that caused my heart to do flip-flops, and he was also dressed in clothing that I find personally appealing, I'd appreciate the view. But, if he subsequently revealed an inner self that was not so appealing, my regard for his appearance would disappear.
As I once said to the most beautiful man I had ever met (before Crystal and I started dating) when he asked me to hook up with him at a party, "but I wouldn't respect you in the morning!" He looked a whole lot uglier to me then.

I think the stay at home mom debate is a major difference between second wave feminism (what most people think about when they think feminism) and third-wave feminism: third wave feminism is a lot more about each individual person being able to reach their full potential of their happiness and their abilities, and not prejudging people or situations through our own cultural lenses or gendered filters.